Not getting what you expected out of life? Not losing that weight, or finding work, or having a loving relationship? Think about where you put your attention!
It is soooo important to focus on what you DO want, and not on what you DON’T want. This goes not only for how we think about things and picture them, but how we VERBALISE our wants. Let’s just say we want/need to lose weight. If you keep picturing yourself as fat, and talk about how you wish you weren’t fat, guess where your attention is? On the fat! Instead, picture yourself as slim, talk about how you want to be slim, using words that are positive like ‘Being slim is fantastic and makes me look better and feel healthier.’ If you say ‘I am so fat, I can’t lose weight, I will never fit into those clothes….’ you are using negative language which reinforces what you DON’T want in your life. (I have underlined the negative words in this statement). Your brain doesn’t know the difference between what you are picturing or saying, and what is reality. It just sees/hears ‘fat, can’t, lose, never’ and goes ‘Well OK, this is what you want.’ Much better for it to see/hear ‘slim, fantastic, better, healthier’.
You can apply this when picturing your ideal relationship, or the job you want (or just getting a job!), your health… Always use positive language and pictures to reinforce your ideas and dreams so your brain is not getting confused by conflicting pictures that don’t match what you really want. This will also make it easier for you to attract the things you need into your life, so you can begin making changes and heading in the right direction. Maintaining a positive outlook is not always easy, especially when we feel defeated, but just making those small changes to your thoughts and words, can in fact have a positive effect.
There is a Native American Cherokee proverb where a grandfather is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
You may have encountered at some point in your life, someone who goes on and on about the bad things that are happening to them, or how they never get what they want? Guess what they are focussing on? All the bad things, and not the good things. Maybe they don’t really want the good things after all! The beliefs we hold also have an effect on what we attract into our life – if we believe deep down that we don’t deserve something, we need to change that belief, and make the INTENTION different, so it aligns with our positive pictures, thoughts and statements.
Henry Ford said: “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.”
Take a look at these links about The Power of Positive Thinking: